Monday, October 27, 2014

Teen Time

I thought for sure Blogger would've scrapped this ancient and neglected blog.  Since, I actually have some time this morning to write through some thoughts & feelings, I'm glad my cyber footprint wasn't washed away.  After sharing a Facebook status about my teenagers, I realized I needed to give myself a pep talk and the mini sermon I deserve. My kids aren't interested in fb, therefore they don't read what I share. So I'm not suffering from guilt, but don't want to have more regrets about the way I live my life.  Therefore, it's time to give my attitude a make over concerning this season of life!!

These pimply, smelly, awkward, grumpy and sometimes ungrateful adolescent people will grow up and forget many of the things they said in frustration, be embarrassed by how they looked and acted, and wish they'd been more thankful.  They will always remember though, MY prevailing attitude and actions.  What do I want them to remember and what do I want to know is true about my innermost thoughts that mold my words & actions?  Right now the truth isn't pretty. Yep, time redo this room of my heart.

OK, instead of being bogged down by the grubby daily outlook, I need some vision to put  this short season in perspective.   Must remember there are 5 of these wild & woolly creatures and instead of the "more the merrier", "the more the scarier" is how things feel but actually we'll get through it quite quickly and then have a long break before it's the littlest one's turn to develop her wings.

The positives I've forgotten:
This is the only time I get to be the Best Woman in the World to 2 tall young men by fixing large amounts of warm food. They'll have wives to become spellbound by and brag on.
As I sit at my end of the table and hear, "This tastes amazing mom!", and "Wow, you did it again!", isn't what makes the hours on my feet in the kitchen instead of the gym and the bulk of my budget on food instead of style, worth it.  It's their smiles of contentment, knowing they have a place to be filled physically and a place of belonging at the table and in my heart that urges me to make it happen.
That weird musky, sweaty and odd hormonal  smell of kids in the throngs of growth spurts filling my house, means they have a safe place to park those hardening muscles and raging hormones. As they learn how to get a grip on oily hair, skin issues and a body that sometimes seems to change in size and shape overnight, am I handling it in an encouraging way? Or, do they see in my eyes condemnation for not getting it right yet again, which confirms  the world's idea that it's straight teeth, clear skin and "great" body that makes a person beautiful?
While I've tried to cultivate a learning environment to feed them mentally & spiritually, it's time to make for certain  they have a safe place with me to develop emotionally & relationally. Instead of zoning out over another joke I don't find at all entertaining,  a new list of facts on a subject I know or care anything about and doesn't seem realavent  or another silly emotional outburst about something that doesn't seem eternally important, I have to be willing to truly listen so THEY can work through putting things in perspective. Once they leave it will be possible for them to hide from me the issues their struggling with. I have them here now with  the knowledge and opportunity to pray for their needs specifically. Right now I can give hugs, pats on the back, smiles, brownies, play their favorite games, and listen with an open heart. The things that can make growing up just a tad less painful are easy to give. As their responsibilities & burdens grow their pain won't so quickly or easily be eased. Most importantly we have the privilege of growing in grace together by seeing each other at our worse and still offering our best. And when our best isn't enough, He is.
It's those too old enemies- selfishness & pride that make the most important things seem too costly to enjoy. While I've used the skills my mom taught me about making things as lovely as possible on a tight budget, I've forgotten that thankfulness & contentment can turn a plain earthly tent into a beautiful sanctuary of praise. That's the makeover I'm working towards.

Saturday, December 25, 2010

Alone Yet Not Alone 2nd Set of Pictures

My illegal picture of one of the sets. We were told to not take pictures anywhere within the fort, during the days of filming. This was as close as I could get, without getting caught. For filming this area was covered with blown snow. Let me tell you, fake snow seems toxic. It is supposed to be a form of shredded paper. After hours of being on set, with it blowing, you feel as if your lungs are full of it.
Buddies- Silas and Honor


Homeschooling friends of ours that were extras


Some extras waiting off set in keeping. On Day 1 we were allowed to wonder about when were weren't on set. On Day 2, they were had sets prepared in different areas of the fort. So, the extras were only allowed to be in the keeping area. We felt a little like cattle being kept penned up. If you were caught out of keeping, you'd better have a good reason! As adults had fun playing hooky and getting out of keeping. Shh!! Don't tell my kids.

More extras in keeping




Karrigan waiting to get washed up



Ellie being goofy while waiting to be washed


Abigail after Day 1
Here's a funny- It was past supper time and the paid folks were getting to eat on set, between takes. This was kinda stupid of the managment. The director calls "Rolling!" and the extra behind me is holding a foil wrapped sandwich. He stuffs it all in his mouth and gets the wrapper out of sight. The sounds of him trying to get rid of that sandwich quick, make us other extras about loose it and get in trouble. There should be a sign on set the says, "Do not feed the actors between takes!"
Important note: If your family is ever offered the chance to be extras, know you are doing the finacial department a HUGE favor. Paid child actors are only allowed to work so many hours and have to have good working conditions. Volunteers don't have limited hours and are required to work without supper. Our household spent $100 in gas and suppers to get to be in this film and saved the Advent Film Group approximatly $3000.oo and that's the low estimate given by the paid extras. We aren't complaining, honestly. We really did enjoy it and it was worth the it.

Alone Yet Not Alone First Set of Pictures

Guess who...............Philip


Me without hair and in my tent clothing- not good.



The Wild Warrior- Silas




Who are those two little rag-a-muffins? They don't like dark hair!


She's quite striking, aye?





Friday, November 26, 2010

Alone Yet Not Alone

On the way to set from lunch.


In late October, I received an email through our homeschool group, that a movie was going to be filmed at Fort Loudon and they needed children and parents as extras. The movie called Alone Yet Not Alone, is based on a true story and is supposed to be a God honoring film. Since it was a period film, I knew we wouldn't have modesty issues, so I turned in all the children's info and Steve's, but not mine. The children kept asking me if I had heard back from the film company. When the week for filming in our area arrived, in early November, I told them our family wasn't chosen or they had too many responses. Well, one night that week, our phone rang at 11:30 pm. It was the film company's representative telling us that there had been a mix up in communication and they needed our family at Fort Loudon at 7:00 am the next day. I woke the kids up at 5:00 am and told them, "You get to be in the movie!" We had no idea what to expect. The first email we received, lead us to believe that this was just a small film being done by a family, with some help of some professionals. WRONG! When we were escorted to the prepping tents, I knew we were in a bigger league than I could've imagined. When I signed the children in, the lady informed me that they had signed me up as an extra also. I told her I would rather not and only if they really needed another parent, would I consent. Well, a little while later I was in the costume tent getting fitted. The story line for the part of the film we were in, is that 2 girls were captured by Indians and had lived with them for 7 years(I think). After the French and Indian War many white captives were returned and brought to a fort. Parents, whose children had previously been taken, came to the fort to see if their children were there. During this time, one of the leading characters is found by her mother. We were told that when these tribes of Indians adopted white children into their families, they would taken black walnut halls and dyed the children's skin and hair to make them look more Indian-like. So, my children didn't look anything like themselves after they had been through hair and make up. No blond hair allowed. Silas was given a wig and made to look like a warrior in training. He didn't like this and it took him the whole first day to be OK with it. Philip was also given a wig but was still allowed to look more like a regular boy. I was given a horrible outfit and a mob cap. I told Steve that he would know it was me when he saw the 250 lb lady in the street-that's what the made me into. Somebody has to be the fat lady, right?!




The film company fed us breakfast and lunch. Wow, it was the ultimate food bar experience. Breakfast- pastries, sweet breads, doughnuts, fresh fruit, salmon, gourmet breakfast burritos, gravy and biscuits, pancakes, sausage, bacon, ..... Lunch: multiple gourmet salads, grilled salmon, beef brisket- amazing! Another day- oriental food that I had never seen before, but it was delicious-not great for kids though. For treats on set, they set out Koolaide, boxes of candy and bananas. My children didn't know what to think! You could tell these folks weren't used to child actors. They fed them a huge breakfast at 8:00, then candy all afternoon and lunch at 2:00 or after. The film crew and main actors were brought wholesome food, on set, at noon. I hope they were as thankful for the group of kids they had, as they should've been. Those kids never fussed, even the tiny ones,while being hungry and watching the paid actors get to eat.




The kids didn't think the first day was very fun. We learned that movie making is hurry up and wait. They really didn't want to go back for day 2. After day 2 was over, they wished it wasn't over. The Doug Philips family came in from Texas, to be at this filming location. My children know their faces from the Vision Forum catalog. Silas made friends with Honor Philips and had a grand time. Dressed up as Indians and getting to play in a fort when they weren't on set, what boy wouldn't have fun?


Things I learned:


It takes at least 5 men to operate 1 movie camera.


That you may have to wait 15 minutes for a cloud to be in the right position for continuity in filming.


The cloud can be in place, the actress can finally have the right amount of chap stick on, the director be in the process of shouting "rolling" when a jet flies overhead, everything comes to a halt and has to start all over again.


Each take, lasting no more than 3 minutes, is rehearsed sometimes 3-5 times and shot 1-3 times, per shot angle. Actors and extras can very easily do the same 3 minute series 10 times.


The people who are the big shots, like the director and producer can be so nice, while the leading actor, that nobody has ever heard of, can be completely self absorbed and snotty.


Main actors have their very own make up artists. EVERY time cut is called, they dutifully run over and find something to fix on the character. It gets to be quite amusing. Trust me, even the mussed up look of an actress takes hours to achieve.




We are very thankful for getting to see up close, part of the movie making process. We worked alongside extras that were getting paid to do what we were doing. They told me what our family would've made, if we had been paid extras for those two days- yikes! The educational value of our experience made the info bearable. I met folks that had been in God in Generals, Evan the Almighty, War of the Worlds and other films. They told us that being in a movie, changes the way you view films forever. They are right. I rewatch scenes, just to watch the extras and see how well they are doing their job. I know were the cuts are in a film now. I know how many camera views, which equals new takes are included in 30 seconds of filming. I know that actors long ago were better actors than those today because they had to do long sequences, without cuts. I've always wondered how an actor learns all their lines for a 2 1/2 hour movie. With all the cuts, it's not that hard. Broadway takes a different caliber of actor than a movie set does.




I had it confirmed again that God cares about every area of our lives.


The first day didn't go well for our family. We didn't have a clue how to be extras and we weren't getting any prompts or guidance. I don't have a face for film and hated the dirty looks I was getting from others, for getting to do something I'm not qualified for. You know it does take fat and slim folks, ugly and beautiful and plain people to make a good movie. But, you have to be a certain kind of ugly or plain. I don't fit in either category. They chose my children by their pictures, not thinking that they would look completely different covered in dirt and with different colored hair. The casting director wasn't sure they were pretty enough to be included in Day 2. By the end of Day 1, I was sorry I had ever signed my children up for this educational experience. I did some serious praying that night and we prayed aloud together on our way to Day 2. I told the Lord I wasn't asking for a pat on the back but that we wanted to show the unbelievers on the set that Christians could do quality work and that we wanted to represent our Father well. God was faithful once again, of course. We just knew what to do and to do it right that day. The director and producer felt the whole crew had an awesome day. He was doing hilarious, happy jigs on set. We were also told we looked appropriate for our parts. The whole feeling on set was completely different from Day 1. When we left that evening, I was stopped by several of the behind- the -scenes crew and told what a blessing our family was and how sweet my children are. I know that, but praise the Lord we were able to be a witness for Him again.


We have no idea if this film will be any good. The professional extras told us that the little guys know nothing about a film, except from the scenes you're in, until you see it played on the screen. The extras try to glean info here and there and hope for the best. The man who does the extra footage for DVDs, told me at lunch one day, that that total budget for the film at that point was 4 million dollars. It has been filmed in several different states. One of the directors or producers ( yes there are more than 1. We breakfasted one day with the 1st Assistant Director) was on the production or direction team for Amazing Grace. We were told it will appear in some theaters and will take anywhere from 6 months to a year to go through post production and be released. There is a country music star in the film. One of the extras couldn't believe I didn't know his name. I had to come home after Day 1 and look him up online. I had never even heard of him. His name is Clay Walker. I wasn't impressed with him. Also acting is one of the Harris twins from the Rebelution. Sorry, I don't know them apart so I don't know which one, but I was impressed with him.


A funny- Abigail had an appointment for a sleep study for the evening of Day 2. It was scheduled long before we knew about the filming. The clinic was so nice to work with us but Abigail and I had to go straight from shooting to the clinic. We had a few minutes to wipe a little of Abby's "dirt" off but she had to go with her wild red hair and still smeared with "dirt". The clinic workers though it was so neat to know some actors and they had a ton of questions. LOL! To color the girls hair they used powder and spray. We were lectured to not wash their hair after Day 1, especially Abigail's because hers took some much product. We were assured it would wash right out after Day 2- wrong! It took days and it was gooey. Nobody told me not to wash my hair, so of course I did. My mob cap kept falling off the second day. One of the stylist was very put out with me and told me that of course extras are NOT to wash their hair during a period film! How was I supposed to know? Oh, yes Abigail had red hair. The hair people told us that HDTV changes the coloring of things, so that take that in consideration when fixing characters.


Well there's the story of our movie fame, that it's taken me forever to get down in writing.

Catching up- Ellie's Birthday

Ellie still loves reptiles. She chose this turtle cake
from a book for me to recreate. Finding turtle
decorations was another story!

We don't have any photos of it, but Ellie also chose to go
to Wee Bounce. She decided to take Philip along too, since
he had never been.


Amazing! We found a turtle princess crown to
go with the theme.


Catching up- Karrigan's Birthday

Karrigan choose to go to Wee Bounce again.

She doesn't think much of cake but loves pie.

We had 5 different kinds and Key Lime Pie was
Karrigan's favorite.

The dolphin pinata Philip made for the occasion.





Catching up


October and November are our family's busiest months. So, why did I schedule all the children's physicals, dental and eye appointments in those months? Well, umm long story. But if I've ever even thought of reaching Super Mom status, these 2 months make we very willing to hand that trophy over to someone else. Also, while we wouldn't trade the last 2 months for any amount of peace and quiet, it has confirmed to me why we don't go at this pace all the time. Manners and suppers around the table have slipped. With a slip in those two areas, other things follow. The children are fussing at each other more and are much more high strung and hyper. It confirms my thinking about the effect of over stimulation on children. There's only 1 thing on our schedule for next week. Yeah!!!
I do have so much catch up on here, to get the photos up I've promised. OK, it's been so long I don't remember how to make the photo uploading process work backwards, so I'll do them as separate posts.
Oh, above the children were drawing or painting, using their mouths only. First we looked at some of Joni Eareckson Tada's artwork. We have enjoyed her writing and singing around our house for several years( Hymns For a Child's Heart is one of our favorites), so it was so much fun to look at her art and try Joni's "special" technique. Thanks mom2cherubs for this great idea.